How to lose a Friend

This is a DIY Guide on "How to lose a friend....."

We've made friends since we were one day old, we make them in all ways, places and time. What we do with them is the main issue here.

I have made a myriad of them myself, I make them with my eyes, some I touch them and we are friends, some we collide along the pavements, we sit beside them in matatus, we spend in a jail cell together, we queue in a bank , we meet in weddings, parties, funerals and classes too.

All this are places we meet people who end up been friends. I met one in a washroom in Thika town three years ago. No, we didn't talk while taking a piss, guys don't do that, we don't talk while holding 'little john'. It's awkward and inappropriate. Girls do that, they bond in those places, they borrow and exchange stuff in there, they advice each other or mislead each other in there, they repair their make-ups in there too. Its a nice place.

I happened to talk to my friend because, my almost decade old shoe failed me, I slid, I was heading to the damned stinking floor, As I was deciding fast what part of my body will land first, hand, head, butt or my face, he held me, he rescued my sweet ass, held my helpless board (read body). I was ashamed, but elated.

He let go his 'jonny' and helped a dying brother, he became my brother, he became my friend, he still is.

How can you lose a friend??? I will tell you how. Take a moment and imagine every of your friends, now imagine you've lost all of them.What is it that you can do to warrant such??? What would they do to cease being your friends???

I've met my fair share of them, and lost a big chunk.
BETRAYAL. This is a common way to lose them, get used to betraying your friends and you'll lose them east, west, north and south. Just because you think its right to call her mother and tell on her you think it will be alright??? No, it won't. If a friend shares a secret with you, it is in confidence, shut your gop.

STATUS CHANGE. I will not try to define that, but whenever you get a step ahead, school, workplace, or in the hood, always remember ideals change, stories change, interests, hobbies and perceptions  change. When any of these change, friends change too, you seek where you are comfortable, because even previous friends feel out of place sometimes with you. Times you get one or two who remains, keep them, try to live with them, you'll need them sometime.

BORROWING. You will lose them at record time, it will be dangerous to be close to you, your friends will avoid you and they will have good reasons for it!! Avoid it, borrow when you must, make it rare.......

Below is my pot-full of them reasons. For some reasons this post is becoming too obvious, too predictable. Its easy, you will lose friends if you gossip about them, if you assume every friend is a new lover, if you try to mendle in their relationships, and breaking promises.

Don't become awkwardly friendly to your friends boyfriend/lover. They will hate you, you will be misunderstood. Leave your invitations to your friends don't extend them to everyone. If you make fun of a friend in the presence of your other friends, they will hate you, especially if he/she doesn't know them well. Avoid using strange jargons with one friend when the other doesn't know their meanings. They will not ask, they will be on their heels....

If you start being too serious you will lose them too, turn to be very playful, childish and uncontrollable and they will run.

Enough education on the obvious. Make sure to ask the teacher questions on our next class. Good day people. Make a friend before sunset today, because you might lose another before sunrise tomorrow. I hope you don't.....

Morning After

Treasures of the morning taste
Harbored by the black night haste
And the twists of my minds state
Of a sweet yet long a dream
And all the blame is on you

On all the lovely moments with you
And the fantasies to keep me blue
All in time never always damn true
In a wink the night clears and we through
Then light awakens our reality, its back to real world....

LOISE

Loise. Its a german name for a girl, this one is a lady, beautiful, intelligent and edgy. The name means a 'famous wayrrior.' This one is a one esteemed warrior, remarkable smile, and an eminent personality. To me she is all these things and more, because you can't cleary define her; hell, no lady should be any way definable. So she is mysterious, the kind that you can't get tired to be with, to sit somewhere and talk, to walk under a parade of shades beside those earth roads, or sit on a stone on a cold evening to discuss her day or yours. She is intellfigent, careful and rather edgy sometimes, and I love edgy, because with it comes a lady who can talk her mind, an open one not afraid to say something because it might hurt: that to me is excellent because i like friends honest, i like them stronger than I am. If you can be honest and open with me, be easy to rebuke me, and critisize me when am wrong or heading in the wrong way then to me you are precious. This lady is even funny, great sence of humor U must add, and to me that is beyond an expectation, it's a requirement. This day I was to meet her at her home town, a place well known to me by name, least by engagements. At noon am off to stage, its a rather good feeling and a ready for a great saturday afternoon. She had managed to trick me into a meeting, she never goes for dates only meetings. I was excited for it, I wanted it I was just not so courageous to propose it. I got there in time, she was late but that wasn't of any concern to me because she came, it was raining but she came, she had things to do at home but left them and honored our meeting, she could have given me a vage reason not to come, but she didn't I loved her on that. The rain is still pounding, I have refused to order anything before she comes, and its cold, cold because I've settled at an outside setting in this decent restaurant. She came, smiled from a far and enlightened the meeting already. I was glad to see her, maybe posed an even too much a smile(only she could tell). She spotted a yellow tshirt with sleek green lines along the seamlines and zip-line, I loved it. She had locks held nicely at the symmetry of her shapely head, she was sexy to watch, every man agreed with me because all over a sudden the table we were on suddenly became a scene, she had changed it from a dull point with a strange lonely dude to a scene, a beautiful scene, a second look worth, warm and tempting, her curves and her creavage helped. This is not about that meeting but I will say it was a great outinng for me, we had fun, we talked, we ate a wierd meal for an evening but we were thankful. I even took a few pictures of her for posterity, some moments need to be stored, a boy or girl in this age of yellow purple and orange skinny jeans might use it for a college project about a good date. She is a strong willed lady, ready to ask so you can tell it's never awkward when you spend a day with her, she spots a cute smile, curvy and sexy. If you make her smile once, your heart will be troubled if she ainn't smiling every moment she is with you, because her face was made to smile, her lips were made to make a gentleman take her serious. Ok! I will stop with these because it makes me miss the human being she is, makes me want to overthink, it's not good when I overthink. I wrote about her because to me she is an enigma, to every friend of her she is a treasure, to family I bet she is more than I could describe in words, but my grateful heart can allow her good heart and beaty live undocumented, if heaven asks me what I did with my life, among a novel of stories and fairly tails I'll narrate to my maker I'll leave a paragraph for her, it might help to soften my judgement, such a lovely soul. Whenever you meet a person like her in this life, you are glad, you tell God to enable you meet her kind, because on top of being a nice person for a friend, she advices, she inspires and she cares about her friends. When she asks how your day was, or how you are, you feel the concern, you envy the care and you love your careful explanation. Loise you are the best.